The Four Agreements

This week I came across a book by Don Miguel Ruiz called ‘The Four Agreements’ which if practiced daily and integrated into your being promise to create love and happiness in your life.

Sounds too simple. But they are in fact very simple and with practice they can become habits.

The Four Agreements are:

  1. Be impeccable with your word-say only what you mean.
  2. Don’t take anything personally- nothing others do is because of you, it is because of themselves.
  3. Don’t make assumptions- communicate clearly to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
  4. Always do your best – remember your best changes from moment to moment and depends on the circumstances at the time.

Adopting these practices can be challenging because we don’t pay attention to how we express ourselves and our responses are automatic. This philosophy can be conflicting as it may challenge our childhood beliefs and learned behavior which is also a part of our sub-conscious.

It is possible though, if we want it enough and are prepared to work to change our personal code of behavior.

As Don Miguel Ruiz says:

“You can have many great ideas in your head but what makes the difference is the action. Without action upon an idea, there will be no manifestation, no results, and no reward”

I have decided to adopt Agreement number two as my personal mantra for this week and work on integrating it into my consciousness. To me it means giving other people the benefit of the doubt and not taking everything personally. What do these Agreements mean to you?

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